What would you do, if you truly believed that you deserved better? (from an idea in "Yes or No?: The Guide to Better Decisions" by Spencer Johnson).

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I'm not sure if I know what 'deserving better' means, Ian.
We only 'deserve' what we are ready to receive, spiritually or on the physical plane, so I suppose I would decide to work on myself so that 'better' things would come my way.

Not very helpful, I know.... or is it?

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I would have to agree with what you said, Helen.

Though I find it very understandable when some may say they have been devoted to following a spiritual path for many years, and have not seen the changes anticipated - i.e. 'deserving of'. Is this what you mean, Ian?
If it is, of course then it becomes quite involved. For you have to ask yourself: is what I feel I am deserving of coming from my outer self- ego, or is this my soul’s desire to experience this situation?

In my understanding we are her to express SOUL.

So to me ‘deserving better’ has a ring of self-pity about it. And that is an awful vibration: the poor me syndrome.

I think we have to realise this planet is in a transition stage between the old Piscean energy going out (control and reliance on an outer teaching) and the new Aquarian energy coming in (taking back our own power and going within: i.e. self responsibility).

This is not a balanced planet; there is not enough Light anchored here yet to even blame a god for the outcome of any situation. Like Helen says, it is back to the self.

So...we have to find ways to not be the victim.

Looking at what we have and comparing it to those that don’t have what we have – can be a good way to count our blessings and take us forward to another day.

I would love to hear why you posted your comment. It is such a good question.

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Since I first read Spencer Johnson`s book, four years ago, I have posed this question to myself and others, on a fairly regular basis. In modified form ("What would I do, if I truly believed that everyone deserved the very best?"), it is an interesting and important guide to the final decisions I make, about my personal life, and at work (decisions that have sometimes been radically altered from their original form, as a result of being reviewed against this question).
When posed to others, it never fails to elicit a fascinating response; sometimes defensive, and imbued with denial and excuses; often, a mirror that brings the realisation that self-sabotaging choices thwart and undermine our peace and joy.
I believe that awareness is the precursor to change, and that this is a question that has huge potential to raise awareness of the choices we make (and our responsibilty for that which we choose to create). This has certainly been true for me; and I wanted to share it with you.
Ian x

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I recently met those with whom I undertook the Foundation Course in Yoga, and to whom I posed this question. Two have changed jobs, and two are changing career; all four are considerably happier. Yoga has had a large influence on their decisions, but they all remarked that this question played a part, too.
Ian xx

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Another question which (it appears from my use of it in the last couple of weeks) elicits some interesting - even spectacular - results, is "What is your strategy for dealing with that (issue)?" So far, it has tended to reveal the lack of a strategy, and has promoted either the development of one, or awareness of the choice not to deal with the issue at hand; either appears to have been of benefit!

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I'd examine my beliefs, looking for distorted thinking.
I honestly believe that we are not so much disturbed by things as by the the view we take of them.

Prosaic, I admit, but why make things more complicated than they need to be?

Last edited: 30-05-2010 02:52:00 AM

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I read Prozac there for a minute!! I think you mean prosaic!

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Thanks, Helen.

I stand corrected.

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